When it comes to expressing affection, cats often get a bad rap for being aloof compared to more outwardly affectionate pets like dogs. However, cats have their own unique and subtle ways of showing love and bonding with their humans. Beyond the obvious purring and cuddling, here’s a closer look at the often-missed signs that your cat cares for you deeply.
- Slow Blinking:
One of the most heartwarming ways a cat shows affection is through slow blinking. Cats will often make eye contact with their humans and then slowly close and open their eyes. This behavior is sometimes referred to as “kitty kisses.” In feline language, when a cat makes direct eye contact it can be a sign of aggression, so when a cat slowly blinks at you, it’s a sign of trust and love. You can even try returning the slow blink to communicate back to your cat.
- Head Butting or Bunting:
When your cat bumps their head or face against you, this is called “bunting.” It’s a behavior cats use to mark territory with the scent glands in their face. However, when they do it to you, they’re marking you as someone they feel comfortable and safe with. Head-butting is another affectionate gesture cats reserve for those they trust deeply. So, when your cat jumps up and gives you a push with their head, just know they are telling you they love you.
- Napping On You or Nearby:
Cats spend a large portion of their lives sleeping, and where they choose to nap can tell you a lot about how they feel. If your cat chooses to sleep near you—or better yet, directly on your lap—it’s a sign they feel secure and trust you enough to be vulnerable. Cats are very cautious about where they sleep, so if they’ve chosen you as their resting spot, take it as a sign of complete trust.
- Following You Around:
Cats can be independent creatures, but if your cat is constantly following you from room to room, it’s a sign they enjoy your company. This behavior is your cat’s way of saying, “I want to be where you are.” Your cat does not always have to be directly next to or on top of you, but if your cat likes to be in your vicinity, it’s a clear indication they feel bonded to you.
- Grooming and Kneading You:
Cats groom themselves and each other to build social bonds. If your cat licks your hand, face, or even your hair, they’re treating you as part of their family. This grooming behavior not only shows affection but also means they feel safe and trust you enough to include you in their personal hygiene routine.
Kneading is a behavior cats often carry over from kittenhood, when they would knead their mother’s belly to stimulate milk flow. As adults, cats knead soft surfaces—like blankets or even their human’s lap—when they’re feeling content, safe, and affectionate. If your cat is kneading on you, it’s a huge compliment.
Cats may not always show affection in ways that are easy for us to interpret, but once you learn the subtle language of feline affection, you’ll see that your cat might be showing love in multiple ways every day.